Nothing Left To Say To Each Other As A Couple, Is This The Sign Of The End?

The delicious tranquility of silence

Yes, you might think that if you don’t say anything to your partner, the end is near, but that’s not always the case 🧐. Yes, silence isn’t a bad sign, especially if it’s part of our personality, notably if we’re introverted, by the way, here are 10 signs you are an introvert.

What’s more, psychologist Harville Hendrix explains that silence can be a form of intimate communication. The condition? Both partners must feel at ease. In fact, silence can be a habit, anchored in the couple’s routine.

Especially since with your other half, you don’t need to fill a silence to avoid embarrassment. Social anxiety doesn’t apply, the important thing is to be together, even if you have nothing special to say to each other. Talking to each other should remain a pleasure, not an injunction, in fact, psychologist Linda Widad calls it “delicious tranquility” 😌.

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Silence doesn’t mean an absence of communication

It’s important to distinguish between talking and communicating. When we speak, we’re simply exchanging words, freeing up our flow of thought. Communicating involves conveying feelings, looks, and gestures. There are couples who communicate through tender gestures, but who don’t necessarily speak. Yes, their love language is different, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t any interactions 👀!

So how do you tell the difference between a comfortable silence and a problematic one? What are the signals that should alert us 🕵️‍♀️?

Uncomfortable silence

In fact, we need to distinguish between a comfortable silence and a worrying silence in terms of how we feel. If you’re uncomfortable, angry, embarrassed, or frustrated, this indicates a problem, and silence isn’t normal. Indeed, in this case, the silence may be synonymous with a deeper symptom, as Dr John Gottman, an expert in couple relationships, puts it.

There have been times when I’ve remained silent (in a restaurant, of course) with one of my exes, because I knew that if we talked, we’d have a row. The tension was palpable, so it was better to keep quiet than to air our dirty laundry in public 😅...

Take stock

We therefore need to ask ourselves the following questions to take stock of the silence in our relationship:

• 👉 Do we feel distant from each other, as if a gulf has opened up between us?
• 👉 Do we still share common interests that could fuel our discussions?
• 👉 Do we feel bored or dissatisfied when we’re together, saying nothing?
• 👉 Do we avoid talking about certain subjects for fear of conflict or disagreement?
• 👉 Do we feel less emotionally close, as if our bond has weakened?

If the majority of answers to these questions are “yes”, it’s a sign that communication (more than talking!) needs to be re-established. Once again, communication is far more important than small talk. You need to talk openly and honestly about your emotions and your partner’s too.

As psychologist Linda Widad suggests, you can try to break the routine and talk about day-to-day problems by arranging to meet up outside. Of course, it’s not easy to put your foot in your mouth, because it sometimes means a brutal break-up. But at the same time, it’s better “to be alone than in bad company”, as the saying goes 🤐.

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