What is Pegging?
Let me explain right away: pegging is a sexual practice where a woman penetrates her male partner with a strap-on dildo (typically, though everyone is free to choose the accessory they prefer). The roles are reversed, with the woman becoming the penetrator and the man the penetrated 👇:
"It’s the possibility of completely trusting the other person and receiving, moving your body, and being fully present with yourself."
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How to practice Pegging safely?
The first thing to do is to talk with your partner. Yes, this is the most important step, especially if you’re used to having a more “traditional” sex life. You can bring up the topic by saying you’d like to explore new things and sensations together. Of course, you should also listen to your partner’s desires, boundaries, and concerns.
✅ Once both sides are on the same page, it’s time to buy the right gear, which means a strap-on dildo, good lubricant, and condoms (don’t forget to protect yourselves if you haven’t done the necessary tests 😉). Now that the shopping is done, and the desire is high, it’s important to take things very slowly.
Penetration is not a trivial act, as women know very well. It can lead to vaginismus, which can be very painful. So, you need to be very gentle with your partner, especially since the anus doesn’t lubricate itself like the vagina does.
👉 Therefore, start with external caresses, applying plenty of lubricant. Then, proceed with penetration gently, paying attention to your partner’s sensations. At first, you can stick to shallow penetration, and then go deeper if the pleasure is there 😏.
A practice still surrounded by taboo
Pegging is still seen as a weird and shameful sexual practice. However, the pleasure of prostate stimulation is well-known. In fact, men can experience even more pleasure through prostate stimulation. Not to mention, pegging is also a way to let go and trust your partner 😌. And as a woman, there can be a mental pleasure in seeing your partner enjoy.
However, the reversal of roles is still perceived as a threat to masculinity, as if being penetrated is a sign of submission or passivity, and that it diminishes one’s virility 🙄... Not to mention that anal penetration is often associated with homosexuality for many people, even though, of course, you can enjoy being penetrated and still be heterosexual; it has nothing to do with sexual orientation 🤷♀️.
Anal sex is often considered dirty, shameful, or degrading, especially for the person being penetrated. Of course, if it’s not something you’re into, you should NEVER force yourself, consent is key in any sexual practice, but it’s important to work on deconstructing these ideas.
👉 There’s still a long way to go in changing mindsets, which is why I often recommend reading Jouissance Club, because ultimately, what matters most is the pleasure you give and receive, far from gender stereotypes.
The editorial opinion: Why not talk about it?If the idea of reversing roles intrigues you and pegging piques your interest, why not talk about it with a professional? If you feel a bit lost in the world of straps and lubricants, a sexologist could guide you. After all, there’s no harm in asking for directions, especially when it comes to pleasure! If you have any questions, doubts, or simply want to talk about your desires, don’t hesitate to consult a sexologist.
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