What is an emotional block?
An emotional block is a reaction associated with an event that we perceived as negative and that left its mark on us. To understand, when we have a bad experience, it will lead us to feel negative emotions that will crystallize in our subconscious and leave a mark on us for a longer or shorter time depending on the intensity felt. There’s therefore a strong negative feeling that brings about an emotional block ☹️.
For example, when I was a child, I was locked in a public toilet because the lock was broken. It may not seem like a big deal, but I felt as though I’d be trapped in that toilet for life. I started to panic and feel anxious, especially as I had to wait a while to be released. This little event was traumatic for me as a child! Because of this, I subsequently developed a fear of small spaces, claustrophobia...
What’s the reason behind an emotional block?
From my example, it’s easy to deduce that an emotional block is the result of an emotional shock or trauma. Being locked in leads to a fear and this is the case for many phobias: fear of animals, large bodies of water, heights, etc. But there may be many other reasons! For example, a person who has had a very bad romantic experience may develop fearful behavior to avoid suffering in future relationships.
In general, an emotional block is due to 👇:
- Post-traumatic stress following a very significant event,
- Certain psychological disorders,
- A repressive upbringing,
- A context of stress and anxiety.
Good to know:
An emotional block doesn’t affect all aspects of our lives. If you have a block in love, your professional or social life won’t be affected!
The consequences of an emotional block
It’s important to understand that an emotional block will cause a whole host of negative consequences. Whether it’s a fear or a social bias, you can be greatly handicapped by it. My fear of small spaces has had a limited impact on my life, but this isn’t the case for everyone. For some people, the block will lead to withdrawal, OCD, aggressiveness, etc.
👉 The worst part? It’s that we’re often unaware of this emotional block. We’ll adopt avoidance strategies, without even understanding what’s behind this behavior. In any case, our life will be considerably disrupted by all the accumulated blockages.
Depressive disorders, low self-esteem, anxiety, fears... All these are the result of an emotional block. So, how can you heal?
How to cure an emotional block?
Whether it’s a fear, an emotional block, or a lack of self-confidence, the thing to do is: understand the source of the emotional block. To do this, we need to look at our past and identify the event that was traumatic. However, it’s not easy to do this work alone, especially when it’s a severe trauma, our brain “forgets” in order to protect itself. Nonetheless, a psychologist can help us with la EMDR therapy, which consists of unblocking the emotional shock through eye movements.
This is the best way to get rid of an emotional block in the long term. Afterward, it’s also possible to practice on your own by releasing your emotions 🤗!
Releasing your emotions
The best thing we can do to move forward is to develop our emotional intelligence. This way we learn to understand ourselves while giving time to our emotions. The aim? To welcome all our feelings by identifying them. Anger, fear, resentment... We scan everything to understand what’s behind it. This requires a great deal of self-listening, but it also allows us to avoid getting stuck in our negative perceptions 🤕.
💬 For me, it was through discussions with my friends that I questioned what was behind my fear or some other cognitive distortion. Eventually, it really made me think, and I learned to understand what was behind it. I know I still have work to do, but I think we all do. We should never give up working on ourselves because little by little we’ll end up blossoming with our bad experiences far behind us!
Editor’s note: Get support
An emotional block will prevent us from being ourselves and will limit us, it’s therefore urgent to become aware of it, to identify the causes of this it and to work on it. A few sessions with a professional will enable you to free yourself from it. Don’t wait to make an appointment with one of our psychologists.
🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now!
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