Don't let distance ruin your happily ever after
1. Ask yourselves the right questions and be realistic
At the moment you’re really enthusiastic! You spend your time sending each other sweet messages over text, there’s no chance of you taking things slowly. Once the novelty wears off, what will be left? Are you really sure you want to maintain a relationship with someone who lives far away? Do you want to make plans with this person? Beyond the initial excitement of meeting online, can you see a future with this person? It’s important to ask yourself and answer these questions and to talk about it together. That way, you will avoid feeling disappointed and wasting your time.
2. Speak to each other every day
Communication and daily exchanges are essential for nurturing a relationship. The same goes for virtual relationships. Your have to be present in the other person’s life. Listen to them, don’t avoid subjects that make you angry, stay sincere… basically, act like a couple who live together, the only difference is that your “home” is virtual, but not non-existent! But be careful, maintaining regular contact as a couple doesn’t mean talking to each other all day long. Just like in a conventional relationship, moments to yourself are also important.
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3. Don’t idealize the situation
On the Internet, a far cry from the harsh reality, it’s tempting to present yourself in the best possible light. The person you fancy will probably do the same. This isn’t a reason to run away when you feel slightly annoyed with this person. Accept that they might have flaws, qualities that you probably won’t like. We aren’t going to pretend that it’s not more complicated when the person isn’t actually in the same room as you, but if you only cling on to their positive attributes, a time will come when you’ll feel very disappointed.
4. Meet up as often as possible
It’s all well and good trying to maintain a virtual relationship, but don’t delude yourself, a love story can only work if it’s nurtured with physical contact and affection. What’s more, it would be very difficult to deal with that distance and absence if you haven’t already planned the next time you’re going to meet. So there you go, as soon as you can, jump in your car, on the train or onto plane and spend a weekend face to face with your lover.
Editor’s opinion – Be wary of cam sex!
You might remember the case of Benjamin Griveaux…. his hand down his trousers. At the start of the year, a video of him masturbating started spreading online. If this happens to you, you probably won’t make the news but you will probably feel the effects afterwards. In a romantic relationship, sex is crucial. There are several ways to maintain sex in a virtual relationship: sexting, telephone sex, nudes and even a sex cam. A screen tends to lift the lid on our prudishness. We are more likely to experiment… That’s fine, but you have to be careful. Before sending revealing images of yourself to someone else, make sure you can trust the other person. If these images are made public, the psychological damage will be significant.
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