How To Tell Your Partner That You're Pregnant

Last updated by Katie M.

Have you just found out you’re pregnant? If so, congratulations! It’s a very unique moment that can bring out many different emotions, including surprise, excitement, relief, doubt, fear and even panic…Whatever the degree of surprise, your pregnancy definitely didn’t come about through divine intervention. In fact, there has only been one documented case of this to date, but it was a very long time ago… For us average people, a future dad will have greatly contributed to arrival of this baby, but how should you tell him about the pregnancy? Discover our best ideas and plan your surprise reveal.

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There you are, the only one holding this big secret, so how do you go about announcing that you have a precious bun in the oven? How do you keep the magic and seriousness of it to yourself before passing the news on to your partner? There are two ways of telling him; in a straight-forward and forthright way, or in an enigmatic and cryptic kind of way. Romantically, humorously or directly, everyone has their own style when it comes to reveal this exciting event.

The most straight-forward ways of telling your partner

Plant the pregnancy test where your man can find it

Even if you’ve got strong suspicions based on your late period and how you’re physically feeling… A pregnancy test remains the very best proof. Some women choose to plant it somewhere, such as next to a cup of tea: guaranteed to wake anyone up, no caffeine needed. Or maybe even hidden in a jewelry box: guaranteed to be a precious gift.

The time bomb: Hidden in a key spot (bag, jacket pocket). The only thing left to do is wait for the phone to ring from your partner who has just seen the test at work.

The remote solution: “You have 1 new message”: text or video, it’s up to you how you do it.

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Proof by image: A photo of the ultrasound

Perfect if you have a doubting, matter-of-fact partner who only believes what they see. The same applies as with the pregnancy test, but depending on the timing of conception and suspicion, you’ll have to be patient. Already ready to have a meeting with the gynecologist, you will then have to wait long enough for the image of the baby to be clear on the photo scan. But don’t expect to come out of there with the portrait of a “mini you”. What you see will look more like the image of a little bubble. You’ll therefore have to go easy on your partner and their ability to comprehend it all.

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But at the same time…The ultrasound photograph stuck to the fridge can’t fail… Even if it takes your partner a few close looks examining it, they will soon realize what it is 😊 

Before pinning the photo on the fridge door, remember to check that there’s a nice cold beer waiting inside. Just one will do! Because this announcement also marks the start of a new no-alcohol lifestyle. In terms of where to show off the scan, the fridge isn’t of course the only place, but choose somewhere that will make the photo stand out depending on the time of day.

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The cryptic ways of telling your partner - Time to get playful

Plant clues around the house! A baby-bottle put away with the glasses, little slippers hidden among yours, a cuddly toy in the bed, baby pyjamas under the pillow… Why not try a goody bag? Clues hidden in a goody bag will have a big effect. For sports enthusiasts, remember to finish off their bags with merchandise from their favorite team: slippers, bibs… That’s right, the marketing department have even thought about babies.

For food enthusiasts: The “Kinder Surprise” revisited

Watch out, lots of skill needed here. Carefully remove the packaging and snap the chocolate egg in half without breaking it. Remove the surprise toy and replace it with a small baby sock. Put it all back together. Why not get the chocolate out when watching your favorite series on TV?

For the artists out there, we have 2 ideas

1) Body painting

Give body painting a go by creating a specific design with lipstick on your stomach that your partner will discover when you both go to bed.

2) Letters

On a notebook, write down the start of your story, include key dates and anecdotes: “first time we met”, “first holiday together”, “best moments”, “your song”, “funny stories” etc… and then get to the topic of “most beautiful day” whilst stating “the baby’s arrival expected in 9 months”.

You will then be able to carry on the story with your partner throughout your pregnancy, such as choosing baby names and other key dates, like the first ultrasound, first movements felt in future mummy’s tummy, finding out the sex of the baby, then baby’s first days at home and your first steps as parents. When your child is older, you’ll be able to give them this little story book.

For those who like to be organized

Are you in the habit of planning everything? Do you never leave anything to chance? Ask your partner to plan with you the next time you both take time of work, explaining that you might have to adapt a bit this year. Before you do this, you’ll have taken care to write on the calendar key appointments and different stages over the 8- or 9-month period : gynecologist appointment, 1st ultrasound, registering at the hospital…

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Expert’s advice - It's entirely up to you!

Between you, you have made a little being, a unique design, and just as the baby will arrive without an instruction booklet, there are no rules for how to tell your partner about your pregnancy. It’s up to you to find a way that’s right for you. Be inventive, loyal to yourself and to your relationship. You will remember this precious moment for the rest of your lives 😉

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