10 Reasons Why You'll Get No Closure With A Narcissist

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Narcissists have a reputation for being nightmare exes, and their toxic behavior following a breakup really does reinforce this idea. Being dumped doesn't really go down well with these folks, which explains why they'll do everything in their power to prevent their ex, or should I say victim, from moving on. Closure isn't an easy thing to obtain upon walking away from a toxic relationship, and here are 10 reasons why.

10 Reasons Why You'll Get No Closure With A Narcissist

Walking away from any relationship and going on to write your next chapter is never easy, however, the task becomes even more strenuous when you add a raging narcissist to the equation. Putting a brutal end to the narcissistic supply will obviously enrage this toxic personality and make them even more difficult to escape. There will be obstacles along the way, but that shouldn't put you off walking away and fighting for your happiness.

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10 Reasons why getting closure from a narcissist is impossible

These folks want to decide when you move on, not the other way around.

1) They'll constantly contact you

A relationship with a narcissist is never easy to completely stop in its tracks, especially when the victim is the one who calls things off. The truth is, these toxic personalities need to be the ones in control and therefore need to have the last word, meaning if they haven't decided to put an end to things, then they won't take the news lying down. Here, they'll constantly hassle their victims by message and on social media, plus, they'll even turn up at their houses demanding explanations.

2) Your abuser will play the victim

Whilst you'll no doubt just want to begin moving on with your life, your narcissistic abuser will likely make things complicated for you, by attempting to change the narrative. That's right, these folks are accomplished liars and take pleasure in deceiving people into believing that they are downtrodden and oppressed. By painting themselves as the victim, they'll attempt to get people in your entourage to turn on you and cut you off, which certainly isn't what you need when you are attempting to heal.

3) You'll feel as if you don't deserve closure

After experiencing such a toxic environment for an extensive period of time, you'll undoubtedly struggle to find closure and may even believe that you are unworthy of starting afresh. After all, when we are treated unfairly and persistently criticized and manipulated, we start to believe that we are worthless and that our aggressor is in fact right about us.

4) You'll struggle to adapt to life afterwards

Change is something many of us struggle with, however, creating closure for ourselves after years of suffering is an enormous challenge. Change is a gradual process and requires immense and unfailing support from loved ones, in the long run, however, if you want to break up with a narcissist, that's not to say that you shouldn't take the plunge and fight to take back the power.

5) You refuse to acknowledge your emotions

Processing your emotions after such a traumatic period can be extremely tough, just like the process of realizing that you are a victim can be. Acknowledging facts, feelings, and emotions is however the key to guaranteeing the closure you so desperately need to move forward.

6) You haven't learned how to forgive

Forgiveness isn't something that comes naturally to everyone, although that being said, it is often the decisive element to closing a chapter in your life, in particular a painful one. Forgiving the person who has taken advantage of you and manipulated you is no easy feat, but it will do you the world of good.

7) You're not used to being alone

Abusive relationships often see us becoming dependent on our abuser's presence and company. After all, narcissistic abusers are particularly good at isolating their victims and making them solely dependent on themselves, meaning when their prey finally escapes, they'll certainly need some time to readjust.

8) You haven't quite cut ties yet

Whilst you may be aware that you deserve better, walking away definitively is easier said than done, and it can be tempting to fall back into old habits, no matter how destructive they are. Abuse leaves its marks and can't just be forgotten at the click of the fingers.

9) You still remember the good times

I mean, no relationship starts out toxic, and narcissists are very good at hiding their true intentions to lull you into a full sense of security at the beginning. These types of relationships never start out poorly, but the cracks soon begin to show through when things become official. However, the sparse good memories shouldn't change your mind about your abusive partner.

10) You wonder what if?

Life is a continuous labyrinth of complicated decisions, however, our instincts often lead us down the right path, meaning it's important to trust the process. Wondering what if, is normal, however, these invasive thoughts shouldn't cloud your decision, you'll need to eventually shut them out if you really want closure.

Editor's opinion - A new chapter awaits you

Moving on with your life is never an easy feat, however, it's important to keep in mind that toxic relationships will never become healthy ones, despite the promises made. Narcissists can't change, and their toxicity will only ever intensify in the long run, meaning it's best to get out as soon as possible.

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