I have flaws. Not small, insignificant ones, but things that are noticeable right away, like a nose in the middle of a face. However, for the past few years, I’ve been working on self-acceptance to be more at peace with myself. One of the exercises I try to practice is turning my imperfections, my flaws, into strengths. How do I do it? I’ll explain it all in this article.
Let’s start with the basics! To work on yourself, it’s important to identify what you consider to be imperfections. I mentioned flaws in the introduction, which often makes us think of personality traits. For example, the things I identify as imperfections in my personality are 👉 my sensitivity, my perfectionism, my tendency to procrastinate, and my introversion. I won’t list them all, but these are already more than enough 👀!
Additionally, when we talk about imperfections, we can also think of skills we lack or bad habits. Once again, I’ll use myself as an example for your benefit. I think about how I never remember anything (so I’m terrible at general knowledge), my struggles with math, or my frequent lateness 🤭.
Now it’s your turn—list what you identify as your imperfections!
Now that you’ve done that, let’s move on to the second part: changing your perspective on your flaws. It’s all about point of view—what I see as flaws in myself might not be perceived the same way by others 🤔.
Take perfectionism, for example. It’s often considered a “fake” flaw by many people, so much so that it’s a cliché response in job interviews. For me, I mention it because I’m quite strict about what I do and produce, to the point where I’m never truly satisfied. On top of that, I have a major impostor syndrome that constantly tells me I’m far from being the best. Anyway, you get the picture.
To see my imperfections differently, I find one or more positive aspects to them:
Try doing the same with your own imperfections!
As you’ve probably realized, this is mostly about practicing self-compassion and reminding yourself that, in the end, your flaws aren’t so bad.
Of course, I’m not saying you should resign yourself to your imperfections. Accepting yourself doesn’t mean giving up on improving. On the contrary, I believe we can set a margin for improvement and turn our imperfections into strengths. Let’s revisit each flaw and do just that:
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Once again, try this exercise for yourself!
Of course, this isn’t about changing who you are, but rather adopting a different perspective on your imperfections and being aware of how you function. And by the way, you may have noticed that I didn’t revisit my poor memory, struggles with math, or lateness.
That’s simply because I’ve accepted these imperfections and don’t feel the need to change them. I could work on them, but I don’t think everything needs to be fixed. After all, no one is perfect, and it’s comforting to remember that—it helps us be kinder to ourselves 😌!
Editorial Opinion: An Outside Perspective Can HelpThe art of self-acceptance is a personal journey. Along the way, we discover a new, kinder, and more authentic way of seeing ourselves. This path toward self-acceptance is filled with challenges, but also with revelations that bring us closer to our true essence.Remember that you’re not alone on this journey. Sometimes, an outside perspective can offer new insights and valuable tools to help you move forward. If you feel the need for additional support, don’t hesitate to contact a psychologist. They can help you build a more harmonious relationship with yourself. 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, find happiness... It starts here and now! |
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