What Are The 10 Signs Of Being In Love? - These Don't Lie

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I love him, madly, passionately, madly... Or perhaps not at all... I'll admit it, I'm one of those people who know when they are in love, I operate on a crush and strong attraction basis. However, this is not the case for everyone! Sometimes we don't know if it's love, lust, or something else that we feel. How do you know if you are head over heels in love with someone? Love is a pretty mysterious feeling, but there are 10 confirmation signs which prove you've found that someone special.

What Are The 10 Signs Of Being In Love? - These Don't Lie

10 Signs that confirm you love someone

There's no shame in asking yourself if you really love someone or not, even relationship experts agree. Our emotions are not always obvious to decipher, especially when we start to fall deeply in love. We don't know if we are in a short-lived passion, in a loving relationship, or if we are just emotionally dependent on someone. When it comes to long-lasting love, it's legitimate to wonder, especially when we want to make sure of the presence of our feelings before verbalizing them. So here we go with the 10 signals that let us know if we love someone 👇 !

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1. We want to be with the person all the time ✅

When we are in love, one thing is simple, we want to be with the person all the time. At least, that's the case for me! I want to show him my passions and also learn about him, too. I tend to only want to talk to him and tell him all the little details of my day.

👉 We can have a carnal relationship at first. However, if you want to be with the person all the time, maybe that means you end up getting attached and falling in love...

2. Your body confirms it ✅

I just want to talk about the butterflies in your stomach 🦋. You know, it's when your heart flutters, your palms sweat, you shake, you get goosebumps... Then, you feel immense joy at the thought of being in his (or her) company. I feel like that when I know I'm going to see the person or when I'm just talking to them. If on top of that the exchange is rich, and I see that there is some banter, my heart skips a bit!

3. The person occupies a crazy amount of space in our thoughts ✅

We feel like we can't spend a single second without thinking about him or her. Their image spontaneously comes to our mind several times a day, if not all the time. Personally, I'm a great stage director in my head, as I play out a bunch of scenarios where I declare my love 🤣 ! This can take other forms too: you log into your Instagram account just to see some pictures of him/her. It's not to stalk, but just to feel the butterflies in your stomach 🥰 !

4. We talk about the person a lot ✅

This is definitely a pretty strong red flag and a telltale sign that you are head over heels. When all you can think about is your first name, it means there's a pretty clear obsession. Usually, we don't realize it too much, it's always someone from the outside who points it out to us. My friends have already said to me, "you often talk about what's-his-name, you're not falling in love by chance? Oops, busted 🤭!

5. The feeling came out of nowhere ✅

Everything is going well, we lead our little life quietly, and then bam! We start to have an inordinate attraction for an unknown person. It doesn't matter what kind of meeting it is: at a party with friends, on Tinder (even if we hate dating apps a bit 😬), at the mall, etc. It falls on us, without it being really explainable. It's like our heart takes over our head and body, all at once.

6. We really want to learn about the person ✅

We have to question our desire to be with someone or if we really have feelings for someone. This is a complex questioning process, especially when the relationship is in the early stages. However, if you are interested in the person's activities and life as a whole, it is a good sign. If we just like to spend time with them, without really exchanging and discovering anything, maybe our feelings are not really there, and this isn't a romantic love story...

7. We don't care about other men or women anymore ✅

For me, it was a big step toward realizing that I would not be interested in other men. There was only one person I was attracted to, both romantically and sexually. Well, there is a nuance to have, because I am used to exclusive relationships. This is the case for many people (thanks society, huh, 😅), but there are people who are in love with several individuals at the same time and that's called polyamory!

8. We see a future for ourselves with the person ✅

Regardless of the stage of the relationship, if we project ourselves with the being at the center of our desires, it's very good news. How many times have I pictured myself settling down with, having children... when I was in love. Also, I would say that if it continues, even if time passes, it means that the love has really settled. If we stay in the projection, it's a green flag 💚!

9. We worry about not hearing from them ✅

There are times when we are not with the person, and it is normal, spending too much time together isn't always a sign of a healthy relationship. Nevertheless, being away from our loved one can give us some concerns, especially when news is scarce. We can have a harmless worry, and we hope that everything is fine for the person. Be careful, however, to let the other person breathe and not to fall into paranoia.

10. You feel good around them ✅

Overall, when we are in love, we feel good. Loving the other person pulls us up, and we want to give our best to have a great relationship. All these positive feelings, we must feed ourselves and pay attention to them. Of course, it can happen that we feel a little jealousy, it is linked to the desire to be in an exclusive relationship. But as long as the negative emotions don't take over, that's the main thing.

⚠️ You can love someone and be in a toxic relationship. Watch out for red flags in this case, whether it's the other person's behavior or our own!

If you checked at least half the boxes, you probably love someone! And while it's still hard to verbalize feelings, it's still possible to say "I love you" without actually saying it 💓 !

What does falling in love feel like?

The feeling of falling in love is common to all human beings, and the symptoms of it are often described as sweaty palms, a fast heartbeat, and butterflies in the stomach. The physical reactions that occur when you see the person you desire and are often the same for everyone. We're generally convinced that it's our heart that's in the front line when we're falling in love, but that's not really the case. The main player in the lovemaking process is the brain.

These areas are responsible for producing decisive hormones, such as oxytocin, the hormone of social relationships, dopamine, the hormone of motivation and desire, and endorphin, responsible for getting us high. These hormones help strengthen the bond with a potential partner and promote feelings of craving and addiction. For good reason, these are substances quite similar to those secreted when taking drugs or alcohol. One of the regions most stimulated during the lovemaking process is the hypothalamus. This is a small area about the size of a hazelnut. It's responsible for regulating hunger, thirst, sleep, and so on. But it's also responsible for instructing the adrenal glands to produce the famous adrenalin that makes the heart beat faster.

Editor's opinion: Is it yes or is it no?

How many times did you answer "yes" to the points above? If there is a large majority of yes's, then it is clear, you are in love and that is wonderful! If you didn't recognize yourself, if you answered "no", then it's probably not true love. It's up to you to put words to your feelings and decide what you want to do with your love interest...  If your relationships are complicated and disappointing, and the same patterns are repeated over and over again, it is a good idea to take stock of yourself and your expectations.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... It's here and now!

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Article presented by Lauren Hart

Writing is a beautiful means of expression that I cannot do without. It has allowed me to channel my hypersensitivity, plus I love writing about psychology and personal development. For me, self-understanding is the best way to move forward!

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Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist


  1. Only LoveBen Howard
  2. Invalid date
  3. Fix YouColdplay
  4. Beautiful DayU2
  5. Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
  6. White FlagDido
  7. Lay Me DownSam Smith
  8. Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
  9. Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
  10. Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
  11. Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
  12. Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
  13. Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
  14. What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
  15. With Or Without YouU2
  16. HelloAdele
  17. Don't Stop Me NowQueen
  18. Skinny LoveBirdy
  19. WingsBirdy
  20. Californian SoilLondon Grammar

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