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A technique for getting your ex back
First, I think itās necessary to clarify what the radio silence technique is. Itās a way to win back your ex by breaking all contact with them. Itās like ghosting, but Iād say thereās a nuance. Having been ghosted, I can assure you that the other person definitely doesnāt want you back š . On the contrary, you just want them to disappear from your mind, whereas with radio silence, thereās a desire to win them back...
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An illogical attemptā¦
So where to start? In principle, when you say ex, you think break-up! Basically, thereās a desire to separate and in principle, you arenāt supposed to have any contact after the separation. There are certainly people who remain friends with their ex, but still, I find it particularly stupid to apply this logic š¤¦āļø. By the way, Iāve experienced it first hand, by trying to play with fire, you end up getting burnt.
⦠and desperate when youāre dumped
Yes, I moan about the radio silence technique, but Iāve done it myself before š. I was very young and still very much in love. I wanted to do everything I could to get the person I loved back, because Iād been dumped š. So I cut ties with my ex, hoping he would swan back in. And guess what? He didnāt come back, because for him, it meant that Iād moved on! It seems logical from an outsiderās perspective, but when youāre desperate and unable to give up on that love, you hope that the ātreat them mean, keep them keenā technique works.
The silence of suffering
It didnāt work out for me, and obviously I suffered a lot. There was a lot of resentment and self-deprecation after this huge failure. However, suffering also occurs when the other person imposes radio silence on us.
Yes, there are some people who do this to get their ex back, like me, but others do it to be manipulative. And one day, I had the misfortune of experiencing this technique myself during a break-up and at the time, I fell for it. After several years, I understand that this is the symbol of a toxic love relationship.
A manipulative technique
Breaking off all contact voluntarily is indeed a manipulative technique. Itās done to create a brutal empty space for your ex, which is very unhealthy! This is how I felt when I was subjected to this radio silence. I was confused and did everything I could to get in touch with the person whoād disappeared overnight.
As much as I couldnāt do it myself, it worked on me š . So I went back to this person who got what they wanted. And I realized that in the end, I had been manipulated and was in a relationship with a narcissistic pervert.
š Indeed, this technique can go beyond the feeling of desperation to be a way of possessing the other person by manipulating their feelings.
Not respecting the desires of others
No matter if youāre just desperate or really manipulative, thereās something you need to learn: adopting a certain behavior to get what you want is toxicā You have to respect the other personās desire to leave you and in that case, you need to learn to forget about them. We also need to communicate our emotions and desires. If youāre not satisfied with the relationship or the other personās behavior, you need to summon the courage and express yourself in order to part ways smoothly.
Radio silence that causes damage
If Iām so vindictive with this technique, itās because it will create emotional shocks. We will therefore adopt new biased behaviors that will interfere with our future relationships. Obviously, I never tried to use this technique again. Because I matured, and I was able to take a step back from my behavior so as not to be a toxic person in my relationships š¤.
š© Radio silence, or even ghosting, should be among the red flags that tell us that this isnāt a healthy relationship. As soon as we spot this type of behavior, we need to run as far away as possible to protect ourselves šāāļø!
Editorās note: Radio silence is a no-no!Whatever you may have been told, the radio silence technique is a very bad idea that only leads to suffering. For you and for the other person. You donāt manipulate people, you donāt make them suffer unnecessarily, itās just cruel and pointless. Itās better to have an honest and calm conversation to say whatās on your mind. If your relationships are a source of suffering, if the same patterns keep repeating themselves again and again, itās time to make an appointment with a psychologist. In the course of the sessions, youāll understand where these behaviors come from and how to implement new habits for a happier love life. š¤ Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... Itās here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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