Welcome To The World Of Sapiosexuals; Those Who Are Attracted to Intellect

Last updated by Katie M.

If you’re Spanish-speaking, make no mistake, we’re talking about sapiosexual, from the Latin “sapio”, which means “intelligent, wise, knowledgeable”, and not “sapo”, which translates into English as “toad”. In other words, a sapiosexual is someone who is attracted to another person’s intellect before considering their physical beauty. Rest assured, it's not someone who wants to kiss a toad on the lips in the hope of seeing it turn into Prince Charming… All will be explained.

Welcome To The World Of Sapiosexuals; Those Who Are Attracted to Intellect

Seduction for a sapiosexual is all about neurons!

A sapiosexual doesn’t look at appearances first. Indeed, these folks are almost oblivious to enticing smiles, the smoldering looks and other artificial weapons of mass seduction. So, if you want to seduce a sapiosexual, you’ll have to show off your big… Brain! More specifically, a these people feel a physical and/or romantic attraction for someone who shows they are culturally or intellectually active. The famous chemistry that enables a relationship to be based on enriching conversations to get to know each other, thus nourishing the intellectual universes of both parties.

🥰 Perhaps this is what we actually mean by all you need is love.

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An age old phenomenon which guarantees the survival of the species

It is a way of functioning more often attributed to women that has existed since the dawn of time, dictated by our primary instinct. If some of us are more sensitive to an alpha male’s biceps to protect and smash faces of the bad guys in, others think that a person who seems more intelligent will be better able to protect, construct and procreate.

It’s a question of point of view, there’s something for everyone’s tastes.

Emotional intelligence and cultural connection

Good news! You don’t need to have two PhDs, you can attract a sapiosexual as long as you have something to teach them. It’s therefore very relative and specific to each person. A clever mix of knowledge, charisma and intellectual curiosity.

We’re not talking about IQ or education but emotional intelligence and even our inner world. Art and science are two areas for instance that allow us to reveal our inner world to others. Sapiosexuals sensitive to art will take pleasure in discussing a piece of art because it will help them to better understand themselves and the other person. You should also know that a sapiosexual can also take into account the level of humour. Focus more on finesse, but once again, humour, like love, responds to subjective criteria.

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Is this movement a neologism to serve dating sites?

“Sapiosexuality” is as old as the world, but if you don’t know the name for it, it’s because it only appeared recently. The Internet needs to find a needle in a haystack. With more and more information, searches or apps, the Internet needs to constantly tidy its room to store data in the right place and to allow users to gain quick access to their request.

That’s why dating sites offer you increasing numbers of selection criteria. They allow you to go tailor-made shopping with precious #. But you still need to identify them properly first. So it was necessary to find a name to make your search for Brainy Smurf easier without having to scour through astrophysics seminars!

Now that the word is recognised, it’s obvious… It helps to quickly and clearly identify what you’re looking for. But beware, if you decide to go on these dating sites, keep the OED to hand because even if the profile picture remains the first indicator, the level of vocabulary can very easily betray the user 😊

Editor's advice: Love must be able to break free of the boxes

If thanks to the fights in the past, sexual orientations can be displayed more freely nowadays, wouldn’t systematically giving them a label have the opposite effect? Of identifying, compartmentalising and continually questioning who we are to fit into a box? By the way, if a single box isn’t enough to allow you to identify with a group, then that’s ok! Just be happy as you are!

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