Self-Love Checklist: 30 Daily Actions + 20 Affirmations To Make Yourself Feel Better

Last updated by Katie M.

Life can be a bit of a rollercoaster, and whilst I'm sure we'd all agree that at times we are lucky enough to experience dizzying highs, at other points, we all go through gut-wrenching lows that really do bring us crashing down. Feeling good about ourselves 365 days a year is certainly a big ask, but it's definitely not impossible, and I'm proof of that! 💪 Psst, lean in, I want to let you into a secret! Whenever I'm feeling down or when my anxiety spins out of control, I take a look at my self-love checklist for inspiration and decide that it's time to make myself feel better about things. Plus, you'll often find me repeating a few of my favorite affirmations to myself.

Self-Love Checklist: 30 Daily Actions + 20 Affirmations To Make Yourself Feel Better

Self-love is a very powerful tool and one that we should call upon on a daily basis. Even the smallest actions can have the most powerful of impacts on our states of mind and take us from 0 to 100 on the confidence barometer.

🥰 Daily self-love is important - 30 ideas for you to check off today

30 Ideas for when you're feeling down ✅.

  • 1) Start the day with a positive attitude
  • 2) Compliment yourself on something different every morning
  • 3) Make your favorite breakfast
  • 4) Enjoy the silence
  • 5) Perform a random act of kindness for a stranger
  • 6) Set yourself a goal for the day
  • 7) Go for a walk
  • 8) Dance like nobody is watching
  • 9) Meditate for 15 minutes
  • 10) Squeeze in a workout
  • 11) Drink lots of water
  • 12) Do some quick housework
  • 13) Make an entry in your gratitude journal
  • 14) Forgive yourself for yesterday's mistakes
  • 15) Celebrate your achievements
  • 16) Challenge negative thoughts
  • 17) Make a pledge not to complain
  • 18) Start reading a new book
  • 19) Do some adult coloring
  • 20) Give yourself a sweet treat
  • 21) Take a break from social media
  • 22) Watch an episode from your favorite series that makes you laugh
  • 23) Practice saying 'no'
  • 24) Listen to your favorite playlist
  • 25) Call a friend you've been meaning to catch up with
  • 26) Take a bath
  • 27) Moisturize
  • 28) Light a few candles
  • 29) Get a good night's sleep
  • 30) End your day by choosing your personal highlight of what you enjoyed most.

List of affirmations for self-love - 20 Things to tell yourself 💑

In life, there are ups and downs, moments when you feel a little down, and days when you explode with joy. To gain a little more self-confidence and feel stronger every day, here are 20 affirmations to repeat in front of a mirror as often as you feel the need.

📍 FAQ; What is an affirmation? 📍

An affirmation is a belief that expresses in a few words an attitude or conviction that defines the person you are or aspects of your life.

Examples of positive beliefs:

  • I am lovable just as I am.
  • I feel strong.
  • I deserve happiness and success.
  • I can do it!

These affirmations are positive and motivating.

Examples of negative beliefs:

  • I don't deserve to be loved.
  • I feel weak.
  • Others deserve more than I do.
  • I can't do it.

These affirmations are power mantras that can transform your outlook on life. Repeating them to yourself regularly can help boost your confidence and self-esteem. They are a way of cultivating a positive state of mind and a proactive attitude to life. These affirmations are a way of awakening your personal power, anchoring you in the present and opening you up to a future of success and happiness. By affirming yourself, you give yourself the opportunity to grow, flourish and live the life you've always dreamed of. Remember, you are the master of your thoughts, feelings and choices. With these affirmations, you're on your way to becoming the best version of yourself.

  • 1) "I am deserving of love and kindness, and I choose to treat myself with compassion."
  • 2) "I embrace my uniqueness and celebrate the qualities that make me who I am."
  • 3) "Today, I choose to prioritize my happiness and well-being above all else."
  • 4) "I release all negative self-talk and replace it with words of encouragement and positivity."
  • 5) "I trust in my abilities and believe in my potential to achieve my goals."
  • 6) "I am enough, just as I am, and I accept myself unconditionally."
  • 7) "I forgive myself for past mistakes and allow myself to move forward with grace and ease."
  • 8) "I nourish my body, mind, and soul with healthy choices that honor my well-being."
  • 9) "I surround myself with people who uplift and support me on my journey."
  • 10) "I let go of comparison and embrace my own journey, knowing that it is unique and valuable."
  • 11) "I am proud of myself for how far I've come and excited for where I'm going."
  • 12) "I radiate confidence and self-assurance in everything I do."
  • 13) "I attract love and positivity into my life by first loving and accepting myself."
  • 14) "I am a magnet for abundance, success, and joy."
  • 15) "I honor my needs and set boundaries that prioritize my self-care."
  • 16) "I trust my intuition to guide me towards what is best for me."
  • 17) "I am capable of overcoming any challenge that comes my way."
  • 18) "I find joy in the simple moments and appreciate the beauty around me."
  • 19) "I celebrate my progress, no matter how small, and acknowledge my growth."
  • 20) "I am worthy of all the love, happiness, and success that the universe has to offer."

Editor's opinion - Little things make a big difference

You don't need to spend fortunes on expensive clothes or fancy trips to feel better. At times, even the simplest of actions are enough to get us smiling once again. Having coping techniques including a self-love checklist are essential in preserving our mental health, and the good news is, everyone can make one, regardless of their age, status, background, or gender.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!


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