5 Secrets For A Happy Married Life: Make It Last Forever!

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Coming across a couple married for 40 years, who are still holding hands and gazing lovingly into each other’s eyes, always leaves you dreaming. Once can hope, right?! The question is how did they manage to resist the passing of time, wear and tear as well as the daily worries? There are no miracle recipes, but by observing these couples more closely we realize that they all have something in common, here are their secrets.

5 Secrets For A Happy Married Life: Make It Last Forever!
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Relationships that last a lifetime have certain behaviors in common and little things that allow them to keep the flame alive. Here are the 5 secrets of marital happiness!

The 5 things married couples do to maintain a happy relationship

1. They know how to put arguments into perspective

Arguments are an integral part of life as a couple. Don't assume the worst after a big fight, but instead try to learn from it, and above all avoid turning your anger into violence. Of course, if these arguments become too regular, there is cause for concern, especially if the other person is insulting or humiliating towards you.

2. They laugh together

Laughter is probably the best way to get rid of routine. Let’s face it, it’s impossible to get bored with someone who always finds a way to make you laugh, even in difficult times.

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3. They don't overreact in difficult situations

You may have told him a good ten times not to forget to take out the garbage and oh, surprise, the next day it still hasn’t been done! Before you get angry, ask yourself if it's really worth it. Take a step back and overcome these little things, putting them into perspective will show you that they don't really matter.

4. They're spontaneous

There's nothing worse than rigid habits for a couple; dinner at 8pm, bedtime at 10pm, etc. Don't plan for everything and allow yourself to change your schedule at any time, the little surprises of everyday life sometimes turn into big moments.

5. They take care of each other

Whether it's a simple cold or a more serious illness, you owe it to yourself to be there for the other person. If your partner asks for you, cancel your plans to stay with them, after all, that's what love and life together is all about.

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In a marriage, it can be difficult to keep things spontaneous and exciting in the face of the stresses of everyday life. Whether you've just gotten married or are approaching your fiftieth wedding anniversary, romantic relationships require a little consideration and preparation to stay healthy and thrive. Fortunately, there are a few simple steps you can take to keep your husband happy and let him know you love him a little more every day. Remember, you're the person who knows him best, so don't be afraid to shake up the established order or try something you're sure he'll appreciate.

  • 1) Get in the kitchen - Whether he prefers spaghetti or sweet desserts, make him his favorite food when he's had a hard day or when you just want to show your affection.
  • 2) Wear lingerie or sheer underwear - You can literally turn his head as you get ready for the night.
  • 3) Let your imagination run wild - Sex is an important part of every relationship. If you're bored with your current sex life, try spicing it up with something new. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to run out and buy an erotic toy.
  • 4) Pamper him with a good massage - Everyone loves a shoulder massage after a hard day, and your husband is certainly no exception. Invite him to sit down, grab a bottle of lotion and start massaging his back, shoulders, and even his feet!
  • 5) Start the day with a good meal in bed - Tell him to stay snuggled in the covers while you make him breakfast and coffee. Put it all on a tray and give him personalized room service to make him feel good.


Editor's advice - Love is confusing, but focus on the bigger picture

You now know these 5 attitudes that make a couple last, all you have to do is put them into practice. If your couple is going through a difficult phase, turn to a therapist to move forward together in the right direction. Love can be testing, but it's definitely worth fighting for and battling through the difficult times. Open communication and romantic moments will help you remember what's important and bring back the spark in your relationship.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

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