I’m Scared Of Being Scared, How Do I Escape This Vicious Cycle?

Last updated by Katie M.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve always been scared of being scared. For a few years now, I’ve been working to detach myself from this anxiety that paralyzes me from taking certain actions. For a long time, I had these little words in my head: “What if…?”. They prevented me from doing even the slightest thing. Now, since I’ve got rid of the fear of being scared, I feel alive again. However, it’s not so easy to do this, so how do you stop being scared?

Contents: 

What is phobophobia?

When you’re phobophobic, i.e. when you’re scared of being scared, there’s no fear identified as thalassophobia (fear of sea beds). However, you anticipate sensations and symptoms experienced when you have a concrete phobia. There’s no external stimulus that symbolizes a real reason to trigger the fear. There’s anxious anticipation of the fear and of being confronted with a stressful situation.

A fear symbolized by anxiety

😨 In reality, the fear of being scared is actually a generalized anxiety disorder. The consequence? You feel the slightest sign associated with fear: palpitations, dizziness, trembling, cold sweats, feeling sick, etc. This may lead to panic attacks if the panic is not controlled.

Knowing if you have phobophobia

As we fear being scared, we avoid all stressful situations. We will always have little faith in our ability to act in difficult situations. So we prefer to stay back, which gives the impression that we lack willingness, but it’s just fear that paralyzes us.

😱 Up to 12.5% of the population can be considered phobophobic. If we already have a fear identified as agoraphobia, we will have stronger predispositions to feel a generalized fear.

➜ You are considered phobophobic when:

  • the phobia lasts longer than 6 months;
  • the fear is disproportionate to the actual situation;
  • the fear interferes with your ability to function socially or professionally.

The origins of the fear of being scared

The fear of being scared doesn’t suddenly just appear. There are concrete origins that cause this generalized phobia.

Received education 👨‍👩‍👧

It usually originates in childhood, in particular because of the education given by the parents. Indeed, if our parents were overprotective during our childhood, we will have learned to be afraid of the slightest situation. Constant warnings about being wary of an event or an animal cause a state of anxiety and general fear.

A trauma 💥

Phobophobia may also be the result of a bad experience, an emotional shock or stress related to another fear. Indeed, if we’ve been confronted with one of our phobias without being prepared for it, your body may condition itself and set up a permanent alarm signal.

The solutions to detach yourself from the fear

Therapy

Like all other phobias, you need to understand the origin of the fear. It’s important to treat it as soon as it appears. It’s essential to start psychological treatment, which is the best way to reduce the fear of being scared. There are several possible therapies for this:

  • Psychotherapy (talking in order to understand the origin of the fear);
  • Cognitive and behavioral therapies (otherwise known as CBT) ;
  • Hypnosis;
  • Cybertherapy (which allows us to gradually expose ourselves to the cause of the phobophobia through virtual reality);
  • The emotional freedom technique (otherwise known as EFT to free your emotions);
  • EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing).

Relaxation methods

🧘‍♀️ As the fear of being scared is generalized anxiety, you need to learn techniques to relax and be able to detach yourself from this fear. This is a good way to optimize psychological support through therapy.

  • mindfulness meditation (to free yourself of thoughts);
  • yoga (to relax the body and mind);
  • do breathing exercises (to relieve sudden stress);
  • cardiac coherence (for the heart to calm the brain).

Preventing phobophobia

The fear of being scared is a real vicious cycle: symptoms trigger fear, which in turn leads to new symptoms that are further amplified. In reality, phobophobia acts as an amplifier of phobic symptoms over time.

⚠️ So in order to calm down as much as possible and not withdraw into yourself, it’s important to avoid certain behaviors:

  • avoid stressful elements;
  • don’t confront yourself with an identified phobia;
  • do relaxation exercises;
  • keep social contacts to avoid isolation;
  • learn to dissociate fear from imaginary danger.

Editor’s note: Escaping the vicious cycle

There are many very effective therapies to break out of this vicious cycle and to stop the fear of being scared. This anxiety disorder is generally disabling in everyday life, prevents you from expressing your full potential, and deprives you of certain experiences. Don’t wait to make an appointment with one of our psychologists.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

#BornToBeMe

Be sure to check out the following articles too;

Article presented by Katie M.

Discover the world through my eyes.

Read our latest articles here:

Do Narcissists Always Come Back?

You're probably thinking that once a narcissist has upped sticks and fled, he'll neve...

Read

20 Narcissist Quotes

Narcissists are known for having a certain way with words, these folks certainly use ...

Read

How Do You Know If You Love Someone?

I love him, madly, passionately, madly... Or perhaps not at all... I'll admit it, I'm...

Read

10 Signs That You’re An Introvert And That’s Just Fine!

Dearest loneliness, when you’re around, well that’s ok! I remember with delight the p...

Read

Is My Coworker A Narcissist?

Now, I don’t want to make you paranoid, but the truth is that narcissists are everywh...

Read

I Constantly Need Recognition

Ever since I was a child, I’ve felt like I do things according to others. My choices ...

Read

What Does Narcissistic Abuse Feel Like?

Narcissistic abuse is truly one of the most crushing and soul-destroying trials anyon...

Read

Can We Sleep With Someone On The First Night?

“Never on the first night!” We’ve all heard or uttered this phrase before. But here y...

Read

How Do I Cope With Anxiety?

Now, I want to be totally honest with you and definitely aren’t here to tell you that...

Read

Why Owning A Pet Is So Beneficial For Us

Who’s never been moved by a kitten or a puppy? Personally, I melt completely in front...

Read

Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

How to detect a narcissist


"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken." 

- Oscar Wilde


How to soothe an anxiety attack