As the saying goes, ‘we can’t have it all’, but is that really true? Establishing balance in your life is never exactly an easy challenge, but it is the secret to creating happiness is finding the sacred line between your job and your family. That’s right, it's essential to ask yourself how you organize your life, so you can make the most of every moment. So, what job will allow you to reconcile both aspects of your life?
We're all different, and so are our needs and desires. Do you work too much for the time you spend with your family? Do you spend too much time with your family and not enough at work? 🚨 Newsflash: only you know and can take action to find the place where you'll be fulfilled, both personally and professionally. So, if you don't mind, let's leave the guilt and other people's opinions here from now on, which will only confuse our manes (got the ref'? 🦁). What counts is finding your own balance.
In addition to looking for concrete tools to find it, it's worth taking a step back and asking ourselves where this need comes from. Several factors are weighing in the balance.
Well, since we're all different, no (the word "miracle" was a clue). However, it is true that certain statuses or professional fields tend to facilitate this balance.
There is no such thing as an ideal job, but rather a number of statutes and organizational models that can facilitate the search for this balance. On the other hand, it's a well-known fact that certain fields, such as catering or healthcare to name but a few, require you to work staggered hours (evenings, nights and weekends); that executive status predisposes you not to count your hours; and that working too far from home means "losing" many hours of commuting time. With awareness of all this and without putting too much pressure on ourselves, it's up to each of us to come to terms with our realities and try to always "strive towards" our ideal balance.
😲 And if you're in a relationship, with a man: does he also question himself? An Insee study published in 2022 questioned equality between women and men in the articulation of work and family. Well, do you know what? The employment rate for mothers in a relationship aged 25 to 49 varies from 48% to 73% (depending on the number of children and their age). But, surprise! For fathers in a relationship of the same age, the activity rate varies very little and exceeds 90%... Now that's something to talk about, isn't it?
Editorial opinion: Take the time to assess your situationHow much time do I want to spend on my work, and can I afford to do so? How much time do I need to spend with my family? We all have different personal and professional lives, so there are no ready-made answers. What is true, however, is that there are solutions for every situation, and that psychologists and occupational psychologists can help us see things more clearly. 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... It's here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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