The grandmother who makes a comment about my body, the lover who congratulates me on having done the housework when I haven’t, the boss who asks me if I’m really happy with my work... These are all situations in which I hear passive-aggressive phrases. And seriously, it’s just hell. There really are words I don’t want to hear anymore in my relationships professionally, romantically, with family, and friends. And I bet you don’t either!
For some families, sniping at each other over Sunday lunch is a national sport 😅. It’s often indirect criticism that makes us feel guilty. Clearly, it’s not very respectful, and it usually comes from the mouths of grandparents, parents, in short the older generations. When you hear this all day long, you just want to cut all ties with your family 🤐!
📌 Passive-aggressive phrases are sly. On the surface, they’re not horrible, we’re not being insulted. However, it’s a form of psychological violence all the same because in the end it demeans us. |
👋 You may be interested in this article: How to recognize passive-aggressive behavior
I’ve already written an article on what not to say at work, but of course there are countless nonsense things that can be said in the office. Indeed, it’s a clear sign of the atmosphere there may be in a company… It spreads insidiously, like a poison, so if you hear these types of phrases, get out:
Ah, love... It’s beautiful, it’s sweet, it’s tender. Well, not always. We know that communication is one of the secrets to a happy relationship, but sometimes negative emotions and day-to-day life weigh more heavily in the balance than affection. If you want to maintain a healthy and fulfilling relationship with your partner, you shouldn’t use phrases like these:
Unlike family, we choose our friends. However, that doesn’t mean it can protect us from a toxic relationship... No, there can also be problems in this type of relationship, even with the best friends in the world.
That’s just a sample, but of course there are a whole host of phrases that can be problematic. In fact, as soon as you feel a negative emotion, like anger, shame or sadness, then it’s probably a passive-aggressive phrase 😕.
Editor’s note - Don’t let it slideWhen you hear this sort of thing, it’s important to react quickly and say that it’s hurtful and demeaning. If the other person has a modicum of respect for us, or even affection, a conversation can be held to put things straight. However, not everyone is capable of listening. In that case, it’s best to discuss it with a therapist to see what can be done depending on the situation. 🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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