Do Narcissists Play The Victim? - Yes, And Like Oscar-Winning Actors

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If you have ever had the displeasure of encountering someone with a narcissistic personality disorder, then you’ll no doubt already know how manipulative they are. Indeed, these folks despise taking responsibility for their actions and will do whatever it takes to avoid taking the rap for them, including play the victim. That’s right, these master puppeteers won’t hold back on pulling the strings and changing the narrative so that it suits them. Plus, they know exactly how to turn the waterworks when they want to get people on side.

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Narcissists NEED to look good

Yes, they lack empathy, and yes they take advantage of other people to benefit themselves, but, above all, their main preoccupation is making themselves look good. Their overinflated egos and evident sense of self-entitlement mean they constantly need to feel admired, and the only way they can ensure they feel venerated is by painting themselves out to be something they simply aren't. In essence, they need to become the victim in their psychodrama to remain in control.

Despite their underhand tactics, they want people to see them as decent and upstanding human beings. They want people to look up to them and see them as inspirational. That's right, for them, it's simply out of the question for people to see how dangerous and toxic they are, hence why they hide behind the mask of a victim. People with narcissistic tendencies live in constant fear of being exposed, and consequently losing everything, everything that they've spent years putting in place for their own sick entertainment.

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They know all the manipulation tactics in the book

If you've read any of my other articles, you'll know that I always seem to attract narcissists when I date. It's not a talent that I particularly like to brag about, although I guess I can be grateful to my toxic exes for opening my eyes to how dangerous this personality disorder can truly be. My most recent ex was (despite his reluctance to admit it) a huge narcissist and completely damaging for my mental health. Yet, regardless of how humiliating, mean, vicious and awful he was to me, it took me years to find the courage to leave him, and free myself from this metaphorical prison. Although, when I finally walked out on him, all hell broke loose.

Leaving my ex awakened, even more, hate within him

As an empath, leaving my narcissistic ex was undoubtedly the hardest thing I have ever done and not a decision I took lightly either. Yet, to make matters even harder, my ex ended up turning the situation around on me, to the point where mutual friends reported back to me that he had been painting me out as the abuser. My best friend even had several late-night rambling voicemails from him, warning her to stay away from me because I was supposedly out to get her too.

According to him, I'd spent years cutting him off from his friends and family, and had been mentally abusive for the entirety of our relationship. I was allegedly controlling, violent, and explosive. Yep, he had stolen my story, and after everything he had put me through, still had the audacity to lie and portray me as the villain. He tried anything and everything to save face and hide from the consequences of the pain and suffering he had inflicted on me. After all, for him, attempting to make me look like a bad person was also a way for him to get back at me, and to punish me for walking away. Although I was finally free of his grasp, he wanted to show me that he could get to me one last time.

Editor's opinion - I don't regret walking away

Although leaving my ex exposed me to another world of pain and forced me to confront bogus rumors, I'm still grateful I got out when I did. Regardless of all the malicious lies floating around, I was lucky enough to have a solid entourage around me, who knew I was simply incapable of all the atrocities that my ex claimed I was responsible for, but I am aware that not everyone is so lucky. If you find yourself in a situation where you have left an abusive partner, be sure to reach out for support because walking away isn't always the end of your ordeal.

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