“Calm down. Breathe. I’m here and it’s not impossible.” These are the words I share when the pressure is too much and everything seems to be spinning out of control. Words don’t solve everything, not right away, but they do help and above all, they help to soothe, put a smile on your face, and restore your confidence. When times are tough, we all need a message of encouragement, like a big hug of words. Here’s something to help you.
When we’re going through a difficult time, it’s almost impossible to take a step back from what we’re going through. It’s often negativity that takes precedence and pushes us ➡️ toward the bottom of the abyss. A message of encouragement that you share or repeat to yourself is a kind of hope, a helping hand, except that it’s not always easy to find the right words (especially in troubled times), but this should help.
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📝 The 3 elements that make a successful message of encouragement:
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✨ “I love you. I know you need time to digest everything that’s happening to you, but I love you, I’m thinking of you, and I’m here for you.”
✨ “You’re strong, clever, and brilliant. You’re capable of it! You can count on yourself and those who love you to push you forward and tell you again and again that you’re strong, clever, and brilliant. That you’re capable.”
✨ “You have a shoulder to cry on, an ear to listen to you, you don’t have to suffer alone, and we can be together to lift your head up.”
✨ “Now that failure’s here, it’s the time for freedom, the time when you can start all over again.”
✨ “You know, happiness can’t be found in control. Just breathe and let go. Sometimes we need to confront life. It hurts. We’re sad and angry, but letting go, allows us to keep moving forward by overcoming the pain.”
✨ “This trying moment is just a phase, it will pass. You’re moving towards something better. Tomorrow is inevitably a new day.”
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✨ “Now it’s too late to go back. But if you can’t change the beginning, you can always make up the ending.”
✨ “You’re searching and don’t really understand what’s happening to you, but there’s bound to be something to come out of this situation. And probably even something positive. Keep hope, have confidence in yourself, and have an open mind.”
✨ “Mistakes, losses, and failures don’t define you. You’re not worse than anyone else, quite the opposite! You don’t see the positive in yourself, but that doesn’t mean it’s not there.”
The words you send to your loved ones or repeat to yourself is very important. Indeed, they leave an imprint on your brain because they transmit emotions. As such, they strengthen social ties, but they also have the power to trigger the thinking and imagination that will enable you to keep moving forward. If hurtful words make us suffer and sometimes even leave scars on us, so do words of encouragement and words of love or love letters. They act like plasters for our souls and make our backs grow wings. So words are never in vain!
In difficult times, everyday life can sometimes take a back seat. So don’t hesitate, in addition to your message of encouragement, to offer your help, and don’t be too insistent if the person refuses. Perhaps they don’t want to see anyone. If it’s you who’s in a bad way, ask for help from someone you trust, someone whose judgment you won’t fear. Not allowing yourself to be overwhelmed by daily obligations also helps you to get back on your feet more quickly.
Editor’s note: Words that do goodWords have an almost immediate calming power, they do us good, especially when they come from the heart and from someone we love. Lauren's words are sure to soothe those in need, so don’t hesitate to share them with your loved ones. The words of a psychologist will also ease your pain, as will the words you say during the session. Don’t forget that anything we don’t say is printed on us, so don’t hesitate to make an appointment with a psychologist if you’re going through a difficult time, it’s important... 🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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