Why Do I Want To Seduce Everyone? Compulsive Seduction Explained

Last updated by Katie M.

Is the gaze and approval of others essential for you? Are you incapable of saying no? Do you do everything you can to get yourself noticed? This excessive need to please may well be indicative of a profound uneasiness. Why do you need to feel validated by other people so much? And how can you free yourself from this oppressing tendency? We reveal everything you need to know for a more straightforward lifestyle.

Why Do I Want To Seduce Everyone? Compulsive Seduction Explained

Compulsive seduction and needing to please is a pathology that leads sufferers to do anything and everything for a minute of recognition. Someone who always needs the validation of others, always wants to be the center of attention and asks only to be loved more and more. Whether it is with work colleagues, bosses, friends, family or even with strangers, sufferers will do everything so that no one remains indifferent to their contact.

Why do I want to seduce everyone around me?

The behavior of this type of person reveals a lack of self-confidence and a void that needs to be filled. People who have not been given sufficient affection by their parents are more often affected by this pathology. The compulsive seducer or flirt is then characterized by narcissism and emotional dependence. Certain symptoms can direct you towards this need to please at all costs:

  • A lack of confidence and self-esteem
  • A need for recognition
  • Need for seduction
  • The need to be reassured and valued regarding their image
  • A psychological suffering and a deep malaise

>>> Read why do I constantly need attention? <<<

The signs you are a compulsive seducer

  • You are obsessed with what others think: this question consumes you every day.
  • You hate to be hated: you multiply the attentions, sometimes excessive, to turn the situation to your advantage.
  • You can't say no: you are afraid of hurting others; whether it's to end a relationship or to refuse a date with friends. Furthermore, you are even willing to do things that put you in trouble, such as agreeing to keep the neighbor's cat when you are allergic to it!

This behavior hides a deep suffering. Needing to be seen and to be noticed, is a way of asking the other person to take an interest in you. Compulsive seducers can suffer from depression because they are very anxious and are afraid of abandonment. Lacking in self-confidence, they fill this void through the eyes of others. But then, how can they get rid of it?


"You will be worth to others what you are worth to yourself" Latin proverb.


How can you stop trying to please everyone?

  • Don't see everything negatively; when you meet a neutral person, you enter into a certain automatism. Your brain creates a shortcut, and you directly think that this person is negatively judging you. This reveals a real social anxiety which is linked to the fear of others' looks. Ask yourself, "Why is my judgment biased?" "What do I think of myself?" Acknowledging your biased perception of the world is a first step.
  • Accept imperfection: you will encounter very different personalities throughout your life. Some will dislike you, inevitably, but it doesn't matter. Focus on the people who like you and spend time with them to keep your spirits up.
  • Learn to say nostart with a small action. First, you need to be comfortable. This will make it easier for you to assert yourself.

What to do when you don’t feel pretty?

Finding yourself beautiful is more than just loving the reflection in the mirror. Here are 8 ways to find yourself beautiful... every day a little more!

1) Look at the bigger picture

Love who you are, not just who you show (or see in the mirror!). You are more than your appearance. To love yourself and find yourself beautiful, you must love yourself globally.

2) Tell yourself you are beautiful

Find three parts of your body that you love and strive to always showcase them.

3) Fight complexes, one at a time

Don't like your nose? Do your arms bother you? Do you think your thighs are ugly? Don't just say it: do it! Take different ways to change, make peace with this part of your body, or learn how to camouflage your flaws.

4) Stop complaining

Yes, you're not as thin as you were 15 years ago, but that's no reason to remind yourself every day. Stop looking back and go for it! Accepting that your body is changing is a much more positive attitude.

5) Accept compliments

When someone compliments you, don't be embarrassed. When someone says "That dress looks great on you", don't say "Well you know, I’m wearing Spanx underneath" or "Stop! I think my belly is showing too much!" Be proud and simply say "Thank you!

6) No more comparing yourself!

Yes, all the celebrities in magazines and on TV look great! But they don't live in the same reality as us! And they have hairdressers, make-up artists, stylists, and other "beauty helpers" at their service. If your addiction to extreme comparison is undermining your life, stop looking at women's magazines until you are able to distance yourself from what they offer and real life!

7) The power of mantras

Repeat positive phrases to yourself that help you feel confident!

8) Pamper yourself

Take the time to pamper your body. Don't always take quick showers or baths, treat yourself to a spa night at home. Use products that you like for a moment of softness that helps you love yourself more.

Editor's note: An addiction to be cured

To relieve his anxiety and anguish, the compulsive seducer creates many opportunities for seduction. For some, it is a real addiction that can lead to depression, problems of loneliness but also anxiety disorders and even suicides. Do not hesitate to contact our certified psychologists for help and to regain your self-confidence.

🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now!

#BornToBeMe

We think this content might also interest you:

Article presented by Katie M.

🌻 Discover the world through my eyes.

I am happy that I found this website, This is a rare one, it helped me understand my issues and gave me hope that I can figure out my way through the negative emotions.

Shruthi 3 years ago

Read our latest articles here:

5 Techniques To Stop Your Thoughts, I Swear, It Works!

The other night I was in bed, I’d been lying there for a while, but I couldn’t sleep. My thoughts were too intrusive, preventing me from falling asleep. That’s when I decided to look for techniques to stop my thoughts because I found that the factory in my head is running a bit too fast. Whether it’s to fall asleep more quickly or during the day to relieve the pressure and anxiety, I’ve found these techniques to be quite effective. So I’ll share with you my 5 techniques to stop your thoughts!

Authority Bias At Work

Have you ever found yourself doing something you thought was stupid, but doing it anyway because your boss told you to? It’s happened to me quite a few times in my professional life. Each time, I didn’t try to dispute it, because I thought “After all, he’s my superior, he knows what he’s doing”. Without realizing it, I was jumping headfirst into the bias of authority. And I bet you’ve been a victim too. Let me explain how it works.

Overinflated Ego

“No, but in any case, I’m better than you.” Honestly, who likes hearing this kind of sentence? Sometimes, it’s not put so bluntly, but clearly, if we read between the lines, that’s what is meant. An overinflated ego is what defines a megalomaniac, along with a need to put yourself before others… Dealing with a megalomaniac isn’t easy, especially when it’s a daily occurrence! So, if you want a peaceful life, discover the true meaning of this disorder, and follow our tips to making this relationship just that little more bearable.

Why Am I So Used To Falling Out Of Love At Record Speed?

My longest relationship only lasted 2 years, which might not seem like a long time, but it's a big achievement for me because I can never usually get past the 6-month mark without becoming bored stiff. Even though my past relationship have always been healthy, they've never satisfied me, which lead me to wonder am I cursed with eternal dissatisfaction? Relationships never seem to excite me for long enough and always eventually fizzle out, leaving me wanting to head for the hills. Despite my past failures, I still believe in love and want to get to the bottom of why I give up on romance so easily.

How To Make A Narcissist Fear You?

Now, I know what you’re thinking, scaring a narcissist is impossible, so, let me stop you right there because it’s totally false! Getting these awful manipulators to fear you is no easy challenge, however, there are certain things you can do that will help you turn the tables on them in no time. Letting these abusers know that they’ve met their match is the first important step toward the road to recovery, so I hope you’re ready for the journey. Here are 10 ways to scare a narcissist 😱.

Should You Really Confess Your Feelings?

Who hasn’t had a crush in their life? You know, it’s when you fall for someone and have feelings for them even though you don’t really know them. I’m one of those people who have had lots of crushes, and sometimes I’ve even admitted my feelings. In fact, a recent example was just before I started my relationship with my current partner. I offloaded what I was feeling all of a sudden… I’ll tell you why I did it and how to go about it.

Do Narcissists Regret Hurting People?

From their lack of empathy to their scarily manipulative and controlling streak, narcissists arguably display despicable behavior that simply can’t be condoned. Once these people get their claws into a victim, they become ruthless and have absolutely no regard for the effects their behavior may have on their mental health. Now, as with many syndromes, nothing is black and white with these types of personality disorders. In fact, there are certainly many inaccurate theories regarding their relationship with remorse regarding their actions, and that’s why I’m here to set the record straight.

Can A Narcissist Be Faithful?

Narcissists often get bad press, and although many of us try to see the best in most people, in their case, it can be extremely difficult to find. The truth is, folks with this personality disorder don’t exactly have many redeeming qualities that could potentially help to excuse and explain their borderline evil behavior. Plus, when it comes to love, their lack of empathy means they have next to no loyalty, which means many of them often end up cheating on their partners. Ladies, if you are in a relationship with a narcissist, the alarm bells ought to be truly deafening.

"Nobody Likes Me"

Never invited to parties, never listened to or solicited... It feels like you're just an ordinary person, who is pushed aside and has no value. If this is the case, we often end up coming to the sad conclusion that "nobody likes us! But, why do we think this? Now, this thought does not reflect reality, it hides deeper issues that need to be worked on to detach ourselves from this heavy feeling. Everyone deserves to be loved, including us!

My Ex Has Started Calling Me Again! What Should I Do?

We probably all know this scenario only too well. It starts like this, you’re sitting down quietly minding your own business and then suddenly your phone rings, but you weren’t expecting any calls, and it’s past 11pm. The worst is still yet to come because when you look at the caller ID, you notice that it’s your ex; the one you recently cut all contact with. Why is he trying to contact you again? And moreover, should you answer or block all of his calls?



Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist

wengood

  1. Only LoveBen Howard
    4:08
  2. Invalid date
  3. Fix YouColdplay
    4:55
  4. Beautiful DayU2
    4:08
  5. Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
    4:41
  6. White FlagDido
    4:00
  7. Lay Me DownSam Smith
    4:13
  8. Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
    3:17
  9. Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
    3:35
  10. Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
    4:24
  11. Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
    3:07
  12. Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
    4:37
  13. Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
    3:46
  14. What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
    2:17
  15. With Or Without YouU2
    4:56
  16. HelloAdele
    4:55
  17. Don't Stop Me NowQueen
    3:29
  18. Skinny LoveBirdy
    3:21
  19. WingsBirdy
    4:12
  20. Californian SoilLondon Grammar
    3:41

How to detect a narcissist

How to detect a narcissist

How to soothe an anxiety attack

How to soothe an anxiety attack