FODA - Fear Of Dating Again Post-Covid

Last updated by Katie M.

FODA is "the fear of dating again" post-Covid. I think that says it all! For single people, this is not the time for debauchery and gallivanting whatever the cost, but rather for withdrawal and above all fear of dating. The fear of being infected? Yes, but not only that…

FODA - Fear Of Dating Again Post-Covid
Contents:

Health and safety crisis?

Far be it from me to highlight the benefits of a pandemic, but the imposed solitude may have sometimes suited some people. It seems that for a long time now, looking for love has no longer been a gentle stroll, but rather an obstacle course with all the stress and anxiety that it entails. While relationships still represent the climax of life, the goal to reach, on dating apps or in real life, the competition is stiff, even discouraging for some 😥.

Protected by lockdowns and social distancing, even if human warmth is missing, at least the race to find the ideal person has been put on pause. It’s because if you keep swiping right, you get exhausted trying to find something better. In the end, being alone protects you from a lot of disillusionment 👀!

FODA: the fear of contamination or dating anxiety

The first date in coronavirus times is no easy task and can cause some anxiety 😱. This is probably why it seems increasingly attractive to update your vaccine status on dating apps... Strange times maybe, but after all, why not? Given the context, isn’t it relevant to ask yourself if you expect your future partner(s) to be vaccinated or not? Fighting the fear of post-Covid dating is also done by defining your own criteria in terms of safety ✋.

Dating anxiety or just laziness?

FODA isn’t just the fear of being infected, but also the fear of meeting people. The remote social life has locked us in a little cocoon that some single people sometimes find difficult to get out of. Some feel they’ve lost the ability to flirt, misinterpret gestures, facial expressions, or can no longer make conversationThey stress about meeting people, while others simply don’t have the courage to do so.

FODA

As my friend Marie said to me the other day: “Do I really want to get dressed up, to make myself look beautiful, to talk about what I do for a living an umpteenth time? To end up, after a while, having less space on the sofa to watch my show?”

😏 Because it’s true that we can attribute a lot of problems to coronavirus, but even before the pandemic, withdrawal was already fashionable. By simplifying our lives and entertaining us, the digital era invites us to stay at home more and more without moving from our sofa, and Marie is right. When you’re used to having the whole sofa… it’s difficult to share it!

Honesty and letting go

Personally, I love love! Romance, passion, it’s my thing so much that I’d probably end up freezing to death for having organized a Valentine’s Day picnic on top of a mountain (his favorite place 😍 🥶... yes I know 🤢). But actually, we often forget that living as a couple is like having children, it’s not an obligation, just a big social injunction! So before jumping headlong into your next dates or feeling guilty on your own, ask yourself honestly about your desires for a relationship, and only then do you start playing it down.

A date is always a bit anxiety-provoking: we want to be pretty, impressive, brilliant, memorable, whereas we should just be honest and ourselves. Yes, going on a date is stressful, but the other person opposite you is probably feeling the same thing 😅.

Just talking about your nerves and knowing that they have them too can already lighten the mood. Then, let go, your life isn’t on the line, you’re just there to see if you like the person opposite you. Because yes, you’re not alone on a date! So when you’re nervous, turn your attention back to the other person and ask yourself if you’re falling for him or her a little, a lot or passionately and little by little… Bye-bye FODA!

Editor’s note: slowly get back to going out

This pandemic has changed our habits and social relationships and has generated certain anxieties. Many people have even suffered from cabin fever when the lockdown ended. If you’re afraid of dating, start by slowing going back out, return to your favorite places and this fear should gradually diminish, and you’ll be able to go on dates (if you want)!  👉 If your anxiety is long-lasting and deprives you of convivial moments or encounters, don’t wait to see a psychologist. Make an appointment before this fear becomes paralyzing.

🤗 Understanding yourself, accepting yourself, being happy... It’s here and now!
#BornToBeMe

Be sure to check out these articles too;

Article presented by
Katie M.

🌻 Discover the world through my eyes.

Read our latest articles here:

What Are The 6 Types Of Narcissism?

There are a whole range of narcissistic personalities out there, and they scale from highly toxic to rather positive (surprising, right?!). That being said, most mental health experts agree that there are 6 types of narcissistic profiles, which whilst they may all be based on an inflated sense of self-esteem, they are in reality all drastically different, and more or less severe. When it comes to dealing with this type of personality disorder, it’s best to know what you are up against, in order to react appropriately, as well as to avoid falling into their traps and becoming their latest victim. After all, knowledge is power, and that’s never be truer than in this particular context.

10 Weird Things Narcissists Do Sexually - Romance Is Dead

As with many things in life, narcissists also have unhealthy relationships with sex and treat it as nothing more than a self-gratifying activity. After all, manipulation, control, and emotional abuse are their so-called trusty weapons that they hide behind in most circumstances, so why wouldn’t they call on them in the bedroom too? The bottom line is people with this personality disorder are used to getting what they want and will only ever put themselves and their pleasure first, which doesn’t bode well for a healthy sex life. 🙈 Discover the weird things narcissists do in the bedroom and what you should do if you are involved with one.

Are Narcissists Born Or Made? - Let's Settle The Debate

There you have it, the nature vs nurture debate is back, only this time I want to focus it on those deviously manipulative personalities we refer to as narcissists. Now, evidently these folks get bad press and rightly so because they are often at the root of plenty of harm, but is it really their fault? Can they really be blamed for their terrifying and perhaps inherent traits, or are they simply just products and in this case victims of their environments? Let’s settle this debate once and for all and figure out how and when this disorder becomes apparent. So, are you born a narcissist or is it developed?

Why Your Boyfriend Gets Defensive When You Talk About My Feelings

Relationships are never exactly straightforward, and at points, a crystal ball wouldn’t go amiss when it comes to understanding what your partner’s reactions are hiding. Now, sadly not all of us own a trusty crystal ball, but our experience when it comes to love is just as precious in analyzing potential pitfalls related to emotions. This may sound a little cliché, but us girls love talking about our feelings, whether that be about when we are falling in love, or when we are feeling sad. Yet some guys get really defensive whenever these serious topics come round, here’s why.

How Long Will A Narcissist Rebound Relationship Last?

Narcissist rebound relationships generally last anywhere from 6-months to a year. Now, whilst the timeframe depends on each individual, these twisted personalities usually head into these relationships with a plan in mind, meaning they know exactly when and where they'll break things off. Plus, when they are in the final stages of a relationship with you, they are no doubt in the process of grooming their next victim. That's right, the need for a constant narcissistic supply means that they aren't likely to date any one person for an extensive period of time. For them, they require fresh blood every 6-months or so because they simply get bored. Let's take a look at the reasons why they keep their rebounds short, but not so sweet.

Is Sleeping With A Colleague Or Your Boss A Dangerous Game?

I’ve had a crush on someone at work before. Honestly, if I hadn’t found out later that he was in a relationship, I’d have gone all out to seduce him. Except that we all know the “No sex at work” rule, which means that it’s a bad idea to sleep with a colleague, or worse, your boss! Is it really that dangerous a game? What do you risk if you’re caught in the act? I’ll explain it all to you (yes, I did my homework before going for it)!

I’m Having Doubts About My Relationship

This happens often. Since life in a relationship, and even love, are never a smooth ride, of course, I have my doubts 😵‍💫. Not on the same wavelength, the impression that the grass is greener on the other side, different plans… Under the weight of doubts, love loses its splendor. Can it be fixed? I don’t think so, but the important thing is to know how to react.

What Is Candaulism?

Now, many of you are no doubt scratching your head wondering what candaulism means, but some of you must already know by now, and that would explain the recent spike in Google searches for the term. Candaulism is in fact a sexual practice in which a man exposes his female partner or photos of her, to other consenting people. This particular fantasy is therefore associated with exhibitionism. Although that’s not all, the term can also apply to a male partner watching his girlfriend or wife making love to someone else. So, let’s take a peep (get it?) at this practice.

Create a Peaceful Living Space

For years, I didn’t really take care of my home. Not that it was dirty, but there was no particular decoration, and most of all, a lot of clutter. Then one day, I decided to do a major decluttering! I thought it would be a dreadful task, but in the end, I realized that organizing my apartment also helped clear my mind. We often overlook this, but having a peaceful living space truly makes a difference!

Mature Love: How Do Relationships Evolve Over Time?

They say that love is like fine wine: it evolves, matures, and becomes even more delightful with time. I say "they say," but in reality, I’m certain of it. Even though I’m single as I write this article, I’ve experienced long-lasting love stories, and there’s nothing quite like reaching mature love—the kind that provides security and support. That’s why today, I want to talk to you about how romantic relationships evolve!



Wengood's favorite tunes 🎵

Wengood's playlist

wengood

  1. Only LoveBen Howard
    4:08
  2. Invalid date
  3. Fix YouColdplay
    4:55
  4. Beautiful DayU2
    4:08
  5. Thinking out LoudEd Sheeran
    4:41
  6. White FlagDido
    4:00
  7. Lay Me DownSam Smith
    4:13
  8. Nine Million BicyclesKatie Melua
    3:17
  9. Put Your Records OnCorinne Bailey Rae
    3:35
  10. Summertime SadnessLana Del Rey
    4:24
  11. Imagine - Remastered 2010John Lennon
    3:07
  12. Shake It OutFlorence + The Machine
    4:37
  13. Space Oddity - Love You Til Tuesday versionDavid Bowie
    3:46
  14. What A Wonderful WorldLouis Armstrong
    2:17
  15. With Or Without YouU2
    4:56
  16. HelloAdele
    4:55
  17. Don't Stop Me NowQueen
    3:29
  18. Skinny LoveBirdy
    3:21
  19. WingsBirdy
    4:12
  20. Californian SoilLondon Grammar
    3:41

How to detect a narcissist

How to detect a narcissist

How to soothe an anxiety attack

How to soothe an anxiety attack