Imagine if you could fall in love in just 36 questions? Well, it's possible! An experiment conducted by the American researcher in psychology, Arthur Aron, was set up to study this possibility. Thanks to the questions of the experiment, it is in fact possible to fall in love with a stranger or to rekindle the flame between two exes. Whether you believe the hype or not, it might be interesting to put things to the test and to discover the questions of the experiment! After all, these 36 little interrogations could lead you to finding the love of your life.
The New York Times decided to investigate and publish the testimony of Mandy Len Catron; in which the young woman revealed how she fell in love with one of her college friends. She had chosen him as a guinea pig to test the researcher's questions, and then the magic happened! The experiment worked, and no first date was even needed.
💞 If the two lovebirds were already infatuated before starting the test, they assure that they were not aware of it until they reached the 36th question.
Many discoveries are the result of fortunate accidents, and this is the case with this research. It does not date from yesterday, since it was made in 1997. Arthur Aron, a professor at Stony Brook University in New York, was working on intimacy, and he decided to develop a simple exercise to see if it was possible to create intimacy between two people who do not know each other. The least we can say is that the experiment worked!
In order for a researcher to get results from a study, there must be test phases and of course guinea pigs. So, the professor conducted several test phases with different individuals. One of the student-test duos got married 6 months after having done the experiment! Others also got married, and it did not stop there... Arthur Aron then understood what made it work and had seized the meaning of happiness!
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The researcher had indeed put his finger on something important, and that is vulnerability and intimate confessions. When meeting a new person, it often takes a while to open up and show who you really are. Most of the time, we hit on a man, based mostly on physical attraction. However, we appreciate that appearance is not everything! We fall in love when we start to discover the person and an intimate relationship is established too.
🥰 This is why it is possible to fall in love with the questionnaire, because it creates a climate conducive to the birth of love feelings through intimacy.
It is necessary to bring a nuance that the researcher said brought up himself. The experiment took place in a context that brought together people who were already in the same social context (the university). Also, the questionnaire only brings together people who have already chosen each other in love, even if it was unconsciously.
😌 In fact, the brain guides us naturally, without us being aware of it. We know how to recognize someone we can fall in love with. That's why it's so important to listen to your subconscious!
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For the experiment to really work, you need to spend an hour in a quiet place. You must take turns answering the questions. The goal is to speak with an open heart and not to comment on your partner's answers. Sincerity must be at the heart of the process! There are 3 parts that divide the questionnaire, and each of them raise the level of intimacy. At the end, take several minutes (at least 4) to look each other in the eye and stare.
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In 1995, the American psychologist Arthur Aron, a research professor at Stony Brook University in New York, tried to demonstrate that two strangers can fall in love if they exchange 36 questions. He declined his theory in 3 sets of 12 questions, from the most to the least personal. When he tested this experiment with volunteers, several couples finally got married a few months later... In the theory of the bond he developed, a strong relationship would, according to him, be based on "personal, sustained, growing and reciprocal self-disclosure". That is to say that by showing vulnerability, one favors closeness and intimate confessions, the first step towards intimacy.
It is scientifically proven that you will not "fall in love", but that the climate thus created is very likely to push you into each other's arms. The only thing is that you may not have chosen just anyone. The questionnaire only makes people fall in love who have already chosen each other, consciously or unconsciously, on the basis of physical criteria, a mutual acceptance of the game, and an openness to the other. It is not chance or magic, the unconscious smell each other, recognize each other and choose each other. This questionnaire just allows accelerating the passage from a desire to feelings. The climate created is then favorable to the outbreak of love.
Editor's tip: Tell us all about it!Ready to try? Why not try it with a friend you're attracted to? It might be a good way to get out of the friend zone? Give us your feedback if you have tried it! And if you don't manage to find love despite all your efforts, it might be time to turn to a coach to assess your situation together. 🤗 Understand yourself, accept yourself, be happy... Let’s do it here and now! #BornToBeMe |
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