Issues in the bedroom, STIs, contraception, seduction, wild fantasies and last but not least your sex drive; these subjects aren’t always straightforward to address with your friends. Having a fulfilled sex life requires a certain openness and an appreciation of your body. Knowing yourself and loving yourself are two very important for a fun and satisfying sex life. There a no taboos here, no subject is too obscure.
Optimism is good, and, typically phrases like "It's going to be all right", "Be strong", "everything will eventually be all right" can make us feel better when used in moderation. But, repeating them over and over again, whilst constantly imposing a falsely positive attitude, can quickly become toxic. Contrary to what we believe, not allowing yourself to feel down or bad about things actually does more harm in the long run. It's time we stopped forcing a false sense of optimism on ourselves.
Although I wouldn't exactly say I'm a negative person, I often feel like I complain a hell of a lot. I moan because it’s too cold or too hot, because people don’t walk fast enough, because the driver in front doesn’t indicate, because I’m tired… You've probably got it by now, but the list goes on and on. However, that being said, I've also realized that those around me do the same too. This attitude may seem like a heavy one to burden, but it does in fact make me feel freer and happier. It's almost like getting the negativity off my chest, helps put a smile on my face.
We often think that we talk enough, sometimes even too much, but communicating isn’t just about talking. It’s saying things, passing on a message that has to be well received. And that is what’s important, the way a message is interpreted. That’s why saying things clearly, even if they’re difficult to say, is crucial for healthy communication.
Seeing the number of couples who divorce or separate around us, a legitimate question arises and that is; do we fight less than previous generations to save our relationships? At the first sign of trouble, many of us seem willing to give up and move on to fresher pastures in the love department, that's right, we tend to believe that the grass is greener elsewhere. Is it because we were never truly head over heels for our partner? And, is it naĂŻve to think that love can be everlasting?
Let’s face it, there are many reasons to complain at work: the boredom, the lack of motivation, the stress of not finishing on time, the unpleasant remarks from your boss, the never-ending meetings and now added to all that, having to wear a mask all day. To be perfectly honest, yes, there are reasons to complain. Does it do any good? No, not really. Moaning doesn’t help at all and worse, it puts us in a bad mood for the day. It's time to stop complaining at work and instead rise to the challenge of being positive!
When I was still a student doing an internship, I will always remember something my manager told me: “At work, you don’t need your boss’s recognition. As long as they pay you, it means you’re doing your job well, and you don’t need anything else.” At the time, this sentence made complete sense to me. Several years later, I’ve experienced a boss who paid me but who also spent all day humiliating me, putting me down and yelling at me… I understood that a salary wasn’t enough. Professional recognition is an essential part of life and well-being at work.
The truth is I’ve never ever been the type of person who throws everything out there. I hate talking about my feelings, relationships and personal life and will always try to deflect these questions! For me, modesty is a barrier that I’ve always chosen to put up in order to keep people at arm’s length. The bottom line is, I want to keep things private and don’t believe that everyone needs to know absolutely everything about me. I like to closely control what I put out into the world, but where does my modesty come from? Fear of judgement? Shyness? Mistrust? Let’s explore all of these possibilities and get to the bottom of this conundrum.
I never leave my computer, I stay up late to double-check my presentations, I compare myself to my work colleagues… Help! I think the need to be the best at work is making me crazy! This obsession with performance and wanting to be number 1 affects a lot of people. Why do we have this desire to perform the best we can? What makes us behave like this? What if we simply stopped wanting to be perfect, wouldn’t that be nice? Let’s take a closer look at this behavior.
I have a problem, which in reality isn’t one. I don’t smile naturally. It’s normal, I’m a human being with emotions and thoughts which don’t necessarily make me want to smile. However, men have already asked me to smile. If there’s something that makes me want to burn everything, it’s when I receive such a request. I can’t stand this injunction to women any longer. We have to stop being told to smile! And why do women always have to smile? We’ll explain all about this sexist mechanism.
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The question of faithfulness and the boundaries regarding this notion often crop up in relationships, and aren't just exclusively reserved for new couples. We all have different opinions on what constitutes betraying our partner's trust, but does flirting really make the list? After all, we all like a few spicy thrills in our lives, regardless of whether we're taken or not. Making eyes at George, another parent at my kid's school, when I drop them off in the morning is part of my daily routine, so is that really classed as being unfaithful or not? The answer is simple: it depends!
Sex should be enjoyable and sensual, not something we do reluctantly to please our partner every so often. It needs to be something that makes us feel good as well as satisfy our desires. Many of us struggle to enjoy those complicit moments beneath the sheets because we are battling body image issues, for example, or aren't 100% comfortable in ourselves. Our advice will help you overcome your sexual barriers, because after all, everyone deserves amazing climatic experiences in the bedroom.
Working from home probably sounds like a great idea, but with all the distractions, is it really a good recipe for productivity and efficiency? At home, when I'm not tempted to snack or scroll on Instagram, there is always something else that monopolizes my attention. But, like millions of others, I have to adapt to and master this new way of working. Between disturbances and temptations, how can I be well-structured in my home office? Well, I'm about to share all of my success secrets with you!
In love, things are never really certain and just when we think things are going well, they often seem to derail. That being said, when you consider that one in two marriages ends in divorce, it's no wonder that reluctance to fall in love is becoming an increasingly common phobia amongst people. This fear hides deep-seated anxieties and can become very painful and penalizing... To overcome your worries and cast them aside once and for all, you need to understand where they originate from.
If you’re anything like me, you’re no doubt sick of being manipulated and humiliated by the narcissistic vampires that surround you. Enough is enough! The time has come for you to stand up for yourself! No matter who is making you feel bad about yourself; you need to flip the tables and take back the power. Psychological abuse has deep and lasting impacts, but turning the page and moving on is the healthiest thing any victim can do. Here are 9 essential tips on how you can defend yourself against a narcissistic pervert.
Our instincts are often renowned for always being right, and we certainly know the signs of a bad relationship when we see them. Although, that being said, we do at times end up ignoring our gut feelings and only realize how toxic they are when it's too late. Just like in relationships, there are red flags we can't ignore in our friendship group if we want our rapport to remain healthy. Read on to discover the 10 signs that you need to update your girl group and ditch certain members of it.
Have you decided to end your relationship, yet you want to do it in the kindest way possible? If you are in this situation, you must go about it in the right way, regardless of what's gone on or who is to blame. Breakups can be brutal, and you don't want to inflict pain and suffering on your partner, right? But you can't exactly let yourself be unhappy for much longer either, and need to move out. Letting someone down gently is a tough balance to enact, and it involves asking yourself the right questions to make the separation as painless as possible. If you want to be able to walk away from your partner in the smoothest possible way, you're in the right place.
Now, narcissists are known for demonstrating a worrying lack of empathy along with deviously manipulative traits, oh, and before I forget to mention it, HUGE egos too. Yes, that’s right, they love spending hours looking in the mirror and being told how fabulous they are. To put it in other words, people with this personality disorder are firmly in love with themselves, to the point of being totally obsessed with their so-called perfection, but the question is, can they put their self-admiration aside enough to become preoccupied with someone else?
Kissing is a deeply intimate act, and although in popular culture it is often classed as only being worthy of first base, it does in fact go way beyond that toxic evaluation. We’ve no doubt all had at least one lingering kiss that we’ll never forget; one which left all of our senses tingling and hungry for more. Well, that memorable smooch left us reminiscing because it was sincere and meant something. In short, it encapsulated love and romance, which are two things that narcissists are quite simply incapable of feeling.
People with narcissistic personality disorders love playing games because it reinforces their sense of control and validates their need to pull the strings. Now, the idea of playing games may seem fairly harmless and innocent, but the truth could be further away from the reality when these manipulative personalities are involved. Indeed, narcissists are always one step ahead of the rest of us, which makes it difficult to recognize when they are toying with people. So, to open your eyes to what they are truly capable of, discover the lengths they’ll go to, to remain on top.
"Be yourself; everyone else is already taken."
- Oscar Wilde
